Losing My Shit: How it Feels When My Mental Health Hits Rock Bottom

Some days I feel like I'm managing the daily grind pretty well, feeling good and holding it all together. But then there are days when I just hit my limit. I think we all experience these ups and downs of adulting and all the responsibilities that come with it. On some days, I crash and can't pick myself back up. That's Depression, with all its relentless twists and turns.

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This past weekend was surprisingly good for me. I engaged in family activities, focused on spending time with my husband, prepared for a hectic week at work, and caught up with friends while making plans. This isn't how things usually go for me lately.

I have a bunch of people in my life who just don’t understand what depression feels like. It’s not their fault, and it’s not because they aren’t trying—they just don’t have depression themselves, so they find it hard to relate. My doctor recently mentioned, "I just think people without mental illnesses will never truly understand." That’s true, and it can make things tough or strain relationships when I’m going through a rough patch.

I started writing this post for my husband Mike, so he can try to understand how it feels, but also how he can be supportive, and what doesn't work when I am struggling.

What Does Depression Feel Like?

My depression feels like I'm trapped in a dark hole I can't escape from. Even though I know I'm fortunate, blessed, and healthy—more than many people—depression doesn't care about logic. When I reach this low point, the first major signs are my sleep getting disturbed and crying frequently. Additionally, it's somewhat embarrassing to admit, but when things get really bad, I neglect my personal hygiene. This happens because I hardly leave the house and end up lounging in my pajamas most of the time. I understand that everyone's symptoms are different, and I'm certainly not a mental health expert, but these are the initial things I notice.

How to Support a Loved One with Depression?

Avoid trying to fix them. Offer tough love and don't ignore the situation. Be ready to talk when they're willing, and provide your support. The most important thing I want my loved ones to understand is that it's not about them. I can't simply snap out of it. I can try, but it's difficult—that doesn't mean I'm not trying.

Have you ever lost your shit? Let's keep the conversation going, drop me a comment below, and read more on the blog.

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